Mar 05 2009
Living in the shadow
Living in the shadow of another person is a mistake many of us make in the course of our lives. As a widow, it has taken me much longer to heal since I was more of a part of a couple than an individual person.
No matter how happy you are in your life, don’t rely on the love from someone else to make up your total happiness. For one thing, another human is bound to disappoint you because they are human.
There is one thing I have learned . . . balance and moderation in life are two very important factors to finding peace and happiness. Anything in moderation is acceptable, as in a lifestyle of eating sensibly rather than a diet.
One of my best friends loves to talk to me when she is down. When she told me that I asked her “Why . . . because my life sucks more than yours?” . . . “It is your inner light,” she said.
We all have that inner light that shines from within and it is in our power to unleash it. I’ve always had it and didn’t realize it until my friend made that statement.
I had spent so much time missing the person I depended on to make me happy that I forgot that true happiness comes from within and I am naturally a positive, upbeat person . . . and I’m on my way back . . . hopefully I can reach other widows who are misunderstood, tired of hearing “get over it” and know that you are not alone . . . time does heal.
A wonderful post! I find a moment of total peace, and contentment reading this..thanks!
My experience has taught me to reach out to God. Happiness is fleeting. I pray to be content, no matter what my circumstances are, because that doesn’t come easy for me. When my husband died, it was all I could to to trudge through each day. Take a shower. Brush my teeth, Eat. Take care of our daughter. Those things are easier today but I know I have a long way to go in the grieving process. There is no “Get over it.” The only healthy way out is to work through it, one day at a time. Good on you for being on your way back. I hope each day gets better and brighter for you. And may God bless you.
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Roxie
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I agree that this was a wonderful post, Gina. I think that’s wonderful that you can still remember to be upbeat and positive. I think that is really inspiring for anyone who has suffered a horrible loss like that.
Thank you . . . (((HUGS)))